Woman of the Century

In our family, Patricia Gordon was exactly that, throughmore than nine decades until her passing last month.

Memorial services for my wife's mother were held on April 19 at St. James Presbyterian Church in Littleton, Colorado. Rev. Wayne Darbonne officiated. Here are my eulogy and several tributes by other family members. Scroll down to read the contributions of Christina Andrews, Jennifer Andrews, Melanie D'Evelyn, and Tom D'Evelyn, or enter their names in the search block, above right.

PATRICIA JOHNSON D’EVELYN GORDON December 24, 1916 – March 31, 2007

Eulogy by John K. Andrews, Jr. Memorial Service, April 19, 2007

“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. Her children arise up and call her blessed.” Those verses from the Book of Proverbs comforted me years ago at the end of my mother’s life. They should be a comfort to all of us today as we celebrate and honor the life of Donna’s beloved mother, someone who was an inspiration and a blessing to so many for so long, Patricia Johnson D’Evelyn Gordon.

Truly Patty was like a second mother to me. She took into her heart with impartial and unhesitating love not only her own two daughters and two sons, but four more of us who were her sons and daughters by marriage, as well as the two men who became stepsons through her second marriage.

Impartial and unhesitating love is a good description for this remarkable woman’s whole attitude toward life, every day for more than 90 years. Patty radiated warmth and joy to everyone around her. God’s children and God’s world were a constant source of delight to her, because God himself was a constant presence with her. She had an unusual gift for expressing her delight to others, making it contagious. Every room was enlivened when she came in. Every day was brighter if you happened to share it with her.

Patricia Johnson was born on Christmas Eve 1916 in San Francisco, the daughter of Thomas Johnson, a jeweler, and Mabelle Jeans Johnson, who was later a Christian Science practitioner. She along with her brother Tom and sister Betty lost their dad before Patty could start college – but with the support of a courageous and resourceful mother, the vivacious young beauty was still able to attend Stanford, where she not only excelled but met the Eagle Scout and park ranger who became the love of her life, Morton D’Evelyn.

Mort and Patty were married in wartime on April 19, 1942, 65 years ago today. As an Army engineer in the South Pacific, he led his unit onto hostile beaches ahead of the main landing force – never taking a life but never losing a man. Patty brought baby Donna into the world in 1944 with no certainty that Mort would ever come home to meet their little daughter. Sons Tom and David were born at Bakersfield, California, in the postwar years, where Mort was an independent oilman and Patty was a pillar of the church. Daughter Sarah came along in 1959 when Patty was 42.

Patricia Johnson D’Evelyn was widowed far too young when my father-in-law passed away in 1974. Her spiritual toughness and grace at that time were something to behold, let me tell you. A widower from Detroit who happened to visit the church in Palos Verdes, California, was so impressed with those qualities, along with the Patty sparkle that you could still see even a month ago, that he made a return trip with courtship on his mind – and in 1980 my mom became Mrs. Hugh Sheriffs Gordon of Bloomfield Hills, Michigan. They had much happiness together in the six years before death also took Hugh Gordon.

By that time Patty had nursed her own mother, Nana to all of us, through a final illness, and was herself being called Nana by three grandchildren here in Colorado. Her grandchildren finally numbered eight – Christina, Jennifer, and Daniel Andrews – Steve D’Evelyn – Melanie and Kenny D’Evelyn – and Skyler and David Grossman. After moving to Colorado in 2001, Mom became a great-grandmother the following year when Ian Michael Andrews joined our family. She and Ian had a special affection and a shared love of music, right to the very end.

Ian had a way of inventing double names for all of us, and his name for Patty was Great Great. Let me close by reflecting on three ways in which this son believes Patricia Gordon was great indeed. She was a great woman for her family and home, a great woman of faith, and great woman for this country of ours.

If she wanted to, Patty could have run a corporation or commanded a battalion or succeeded in Hollywood. She had what it took for any of those. But she believed her true calling from the Father in heaven was to be a wife and homemaker, mother and grandmother. What a blessing for Mort and later for Hugh – what a blessing for Donna and her siblings and us who married them – that Patty poured out her devotion, loyalty, encouragement, high standards, high spirits, enthusiasm, idealism, and prayers into this noble calling.

As for faith, you didn’t need to be of the same church as Patty, the Christian Science church she loved so well and so long, to be struck with this woman’s unshakable trust in God and her deep commitment to biblical truth. Prayer was her first resort when faced with any problem, including health. As a Sunday School superintendent she gave national workshops on how to connect young people with the Scriptures. The congregation in Palos Verdes elected her to co-lead the Sunday services. Her Christly heart was evident to those of us at the bedside even when she could no longer speak.

In reading the story of Good Friday and Easter during the week after Patty left us on March 31, it occurred to me that my mother-in-law was exactly the kind of godly woman who would have been last at the cross and first at the tomb – fearless and faithful no matter what. A great woman of faith.

And finally, Patricia Gordon was a great woman for the community and the nation, a proud and active American patriot. She chaired the local Girl Scout council and took food baskets to the poor on Christmas. Donna’s and Sarah’s amazing gift of generosity and caring was learned at their mother’s knee. Patty helped organize Central California for Goldwater in 1964, and with Mort’s help she hosted events for Reagan before he was even a Republican. Who knows, maybe she helped convert him. Who could resist that dazzling smile and that authoritative voice?

March ’64 was the spring when I fell in love with the D’Evelyns’ oldest daughter, a slender blonde from Bakersfield who was by the far the finest thing in my fine arts class. Meanwhile in government class my conservative upbringing was in the process of being erased by a series of liberal professors. It was Patty and Mort who helped me get my political bearings again, and I’ve had them ever since. A few months earlier, December ’63, Donna’s mother had received this gold medallion from Donna’s father as a combination Christmas and birthday gift. On one side, some words from Irving Berlin – “Stand beside her and guide her.” On the other side, a map of the 48 states and precious stones in red, white, and blue.

That’s the kind of patriotic family I was being welcomed into. That’s the kind of woman Patty was – a woman for whom “God Bless America” was almost as a theme song as that hymn we sang earlier, “Tender, Loving Shepherd.” Solomon says in Proverbs that the price of a virtuous woman is far above rubies, and for Patricia Johnson D’Evelyn Gordon that was true. Here is the proof in gold, set with a diamond and a sapphire as well as a ruby. She was indeed a gold medal mother, a gold medal Christian, and a gold medal American.

Little Ian Michael, four years old, gets the last word. Just a few weeks ago, Stephanie and Daniel told us that Ian’s bedtime prayer for Great Nana was this: “Dear God, we know she is a good friend. Please make her new again. Amen.”

A good friend Patty was and will always be. And now she is new again, at home in her Father’s house. How grateful we all can be for that! ------------------------------------------------------------------------- REMEMBRANCES OF NANA By Christina H. Andrews

My Nana had her priorities in order. She loved her God, her family and her country. God honored her lifetime reliance on him with a rich, full 90 years of life. She knew that where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And she exemplified the fruits of the spirit such as love, gentleness, peace and kindness so beautifully. She had such a wonderful way of making you feel special and important.

She was my very special friend and taught me some very valuable lessons, even after she began to fail. Never lose your sense of humor and always go with the flow. One day she told me that she had been learning some new things, such as she had an apartment here in Denver. Having been a California girl all her life, she never could quite get her mind around that. When I asked her what she thought of these new developments she said: “I think it’s a scream!”

But she was so glad for the chance to be near most of her grandchildren and Ian, her only great grandchild. Those two had a great bond. Ian called her his “Great Great,” and when she was asked what was so great about her, she replied, “Everything!”

The night before she passed I sat with her for three hours while I waited for the night nurse to come. I held her hand, told her how much I loved her and read her hymns and scripture. I also reminded her of a favorite saying of both of ours, “There’s not a spot where God is not.” Most of those three hours she was squeezing my hand and her facial expressions showed recognition of what I was reading to her. Her faith was so deeply embedded in her. I will cherish that time with her forever.

My Nana loved life and lived it to the fullest. She was an especially big fan of dessert. So she would agree with an email I got recently which says that you should always keep your fork as your main dish plate is being cleared away. When the main dish is cleared, it means that something better is coming, like chocolate cake or deep dish apple pie- something wonderful and something with substance.

Thanks, my sweet Nana, for your amazing legacy of love. Though your passing leaves a big hole in my heart and in my life, I will always remember our times together with a smile in my heart. And I will always remember to keep my fork, for the best is yet to come. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ A TRIBUTE TO MY NANA By Jennifer Andrews

I have the great honor of being the second oldest of my Nana’s eight grandchildren. I have struggled to find words to capture the essence of my Nana. The best I can say is that she left a Legacy of Love.

She had a deep love for God, for her family, and for our great country. For those of you lucky enough to be loved by her, you will know what I mean when I say that the love she poured out was thick & rich - - it was the kind you can take hold of and carry with you.

During the last week of my Nana’s life, I had the precious opportunity to spend time with her every day. It was an amazing journey - - what a privilege to walk down the home stretch to heaven with a woman I loved so much.

Just two days before my Nana passed on she poured her love out on me one last time. The experience was truly one of the most remarkable in my life, and I will do my best to put it in words…

I was sitting in the chair in front of my Nana and I leaned in close to tell her I loved her. In response she leaned her head forward and rested her forehead on mine. I knew that this was her way of saying “I love you too.” She then leaned back a little so she could look at me and she reached her hand up to my face. With her stunning clear blue eyes locked on mine, she gently held my face in her hand. Unable to contain my emotion, tears started rolling down my cheeks … she gently wiped them away.

One of my great struggles with my Nana’s illness was the not knowing – her name, the details of her life, our names, etc. In those minutes that Thursday all that washed away … I knew without a doubt that she knew exactly what was. I was her granddaughter and she was my Nana. We were family. Through her sweet blue eyes and her tender touch, but without any words at all, she said she loved me and that I was precious and adored.

It was truly breathtaking … five of the most impactful minutes of my 36 years of life. My Nana gave me a gift that day and I will be forever grateful. Years from now, I know that in an instant I will be able to go back to that time with my Nana. I will see her eyes & feel her hand holding my face and that in that memory, I will feel her strength and her love and her encouragement. She will always be with me.

Now to one of my other great loves in life, basketball. More so than anyone else in the family, my Nana shared my passion for the game of basketball. I can’t be sure, but it I think it all started when she was a co-ed at Stanford University. Her boyfriend was a young man by the name of Hank Luisetti. He was a three-time All American on the basketball team and one of the finest players in the country. He even went down in history, as the inventor of the running one handed shot. History books say he forever changed the way the game was played. For those of you who know me, you will know what I mean when I say that I can’t help but wish I had left such a mark on the game of basketball.

My Nana was a Los Angeles girl and the Lakers were her team. She got me completely hooked on the Lakers during the Showtime Era back in the mid 80’s when Magic, Kareem & Worthy were taking the NBA by storm. She kept me outfitted in Laker gear, so that I could be sure to represent ‘our team’ here in Denver. On a Sunday afternoon if I was glued to a great basketball game on TV, I knew exactly who I could call to share the excitement with me. Without fail, she was tuned in and incredibly enthusiastic.

My Nana and I did our best bonding during my junior high and high school years when I went to Palos Verdes to visit her every year for Spring Break. I was intensely shy around my peers, but in the presence of my Nana I was completely at ease and felt like I could take on the world. I had few friends, but my Nana was one of them for sure.

Redondo Beach was my favorite hangout, and my Nana would go with me. I would sit in the sun, and she would find some shade nearby. (For those of you who saw her beautiful fair skin, you know why the shade was important! Palos Verdes CA will forever be one of my favorite places on earth … we shared so many good times there and it was truly a refuge from the stresses of adolescence.

My Nana left us with so much. Personally, one thing I am infinitely grateful for is Donna D’Evelyn, my Mom. I can tell you she is the most amazing mom a girl could ever ask for. When my Nana became ill six years ago, my parents moved her to Colorado so she would be close. My Mom became her advocate, her guardian, her everything. My Mom poured love out on my Nana …the love was thick & rich and penetrated the horrible pain and confusion of Alzheimer’s to bring my Nana some measure of comfort and peace. If my Nana was here today, I have no doubt she would say, Thank you my Donna, you were all I could ever ask for.

My Sweet Nana, we will miss you incredibly, but we will remain steadfast in our commitment to carry on your legacy of love.

As I mentioned at the beginning I am one of eight grandchildren. My Mom is the oldest of four. She & my Dad have three kids. You heard from my older sister Tina a few minutes ago, I am the middle child and my little brother Daniel is here today too.

My Mom’s brother Tom has a son Stephen, who is heading to the University of Bristol in England this August where he will be a research fellow in the Institute of Greece, Rome & the Classical Traditions.

My Mom’s brother David is deceased. He and his wife Kay, who is with us here today, had two kids – Melanie & Kenny. Melanie works in the political arena in Washington DC, as a Project Director at the Center for the Study of the Presidency. Although Melanie couldn’t be here today, she sent something for me to read…

BY MELANIE D’EVELYN…Our Nana was a woman of dignity. In her more advanced years it was no different; she maintained a beautiful sense of poise and warmth which everyone around her appreciated. One may never know, but I believe Nana was this way because of her absolute confidence in her inseparability from God. A well-loved passage from Romans reads, "For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (8:38-39). And this is my comfort now, knowing that Nana always was—and continues to be— at one with her Father.

Melanie’s younger brother Kenny is a freshman at Principia College in Illinois.

Last but not least, my Mom’s baby sister Sarah lives in Portland with her husband Carl. They have two boys, Skyler & David. They are the youngest of the troop – David in junior high school and Skyler in high school.

Although my cousins were not able to join us today, I want to be sure to represent them too. My Nana adored us, each and every one, like we were the only one. I know I can speak for all of the grandchildren when I say, Nana, we loved and adored you too.

------------------------------------------------------------- JOHN ANDREWS ONCE AGAIN:

On behalf of Donna, I want to recognize her sister and brothers, who could not be here today. Sarah D’Evelyn Grossman of Portland, Oregon, is known to many of you from her faithful visits to Patty at Sunrise and her countless hours of Bible reading on the phone with her mom. Sarah is working on another memorial service for our mother up in the mountains at a later date.

David S. D’Evelyn of Evergreen, Colorado, passed away 14 years ago. He was an outstanding educator and public servant here in Colorado. The school named in his memory frequently takes statewide academic and athletic honors. He had a boundless zest for life, obviously inherited from his mother.

Dave’s wife Kay, now Kay D’Evelyn Lamontagne, helped establish the school and saw both their children graduate from it. Kay, you and Patty had a beautiful bond like that of Ruth and Naomi. It's wonderful to have you with us this afternoon.

Patty’s older son, Thomas M. D’Evelyn, is a writer and scholar in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. Tom asked me to extend his thanks to all of you, and to read these words of remembrance for his dad and mom.

------------------------------------------------------ TOM D’EVELYN ON PATTY GORDON

Mother lived long enough for me to discover who she really was. Or put it this way, I came to see that who she was is what she was. This is true for all of us: our identities really don't depend on who we think we are but on what we are. I speak now with as much truth as I can, though I know it will seem awkward. Mother was a beautiful woman. That's not only what she was, that¹s who she was. I think that's how she saw herself at least when she was happy.

Like many families that matured in the 50s and 60s, we had our own culture wars. At 14 years old David wore his hair long and asked me to drive him to see Janis Joplin at Fillmore West; I took a paperback copy of Ezra Pound and spent the second set outside under the street lights. In the 50s, Dad had showed good humor when we brought home the first Elvis 45; he liked to say, "All shook up!" But the 60s were different.

Dad made it possible for Donna and me to spend time in the Sierra mountains during the summer. We were changed by that.

Mom didn't figure in these scenarios, really. In a way, she kept her counsel, I suppose. I remember being torn between my sense of responsibility to both of them. Dad was outside; Mom was inside. I remember being told by both to go inside or outside to be with the other.

During the 60s, Dad and David faced off, and I was on planet poetry most of the time. Mom was on her own planet. I think that was the first time I began to really know who she was.

I do remember her glowing when she and Dad announced, in the dining room in Bakersfield with the crack in the ceiling from the earthquake, that there would be an addition to the family. Sally showed once again how beautiful Mom was.

As decades passed and I communicated less and less with her, I knew that my love of beauty was a gift from her in some immeasurable way. Beauty can be terribly isolating; it can take its revenge. Mom had Christian Science to keep her mind above it all. After I talked to her on the Saturday she died, I was working in my office in Portsmouth, a new office dedicated to poetry. She would have approved. She would have instinctively understood. After John called to say she had passed on, a little poem offered itself to me. I wrote it down. Here it is:

How high the clouds This perfect spring day Mother's last dream.

The day a piece of my past blew away

By Matt Dunn (matt.dunn@codydental.com) When I’d heard that a tornado had passed through Holly, Colorado last week, cutting a 300-yard wide swath through the center of town, I wondered if my grandfather’s former home might have been spared. The next day’s photos in the Rocky Mountain News, sitting in the reception area of my dental office, showed that it had not been.

On page 4 and page 8, the views of Roy Dunn’s former home marked a melancholy spectacle. One corner room still had four walls around it – the room I stayed in when helping out on wheat harvests – but the rest were long gone. (See also items 3, 5, and 7 in this online slide show.)

Setting foot in Holly a few days later, I walked towards the intersection of Park Avenue and Highland Street, hoping to get a last look at the old family outpost before its remnant bricks and bits of drywall were to be hauled away.

The town I once knew was scarcely recognizable. Some houses were reduced to nothing but foundation, some were missing windows and roofs, while others showed holes in their sides from projectiles having passed through. Street signs were gone, trees and phone poles had been snapped like toothpicks, the windows of dozens of parked cars had fractured into thousands of glass cubes spread on the ground around them.

Talking briefly with one Holly resident, he mentioned that one of his neighbors had a phone call from near Dodge City, Kansas – over 100 miles away – where someone found a cancelled check in their yard and called the number. “Sent by air mail,” the fellow chuckled.

In the jumbles of wreckage I noticed a red fragment of a PlayStation DVD, presumably a neighborhood grade-schooler’s, on the edge of a grass lawn. I visited with an emergency volunteer as she combed the ground for stray bullets and shotgun shells, placing them in a burlap bag. She didn’t want any kids playing with those.

Walking on, I realized I’d marched past my destination without having any idea of where I was. Backtracking a bit, through the traffic of energetic volunteers, came the jolting view that the one-time center of countless family gatherings simply wasn’t there anymore, nor were several of the neighboring homes.

Roy Dunn came to the southeastern Colorado plains in the 1940s to experiment with dryland wheat farming. Working then as a professional heavyweight wrestler, crisscrossing America on an unpredictable schedule, he figured he could tend to his land between matches.

The experiment proved a success, and for upwards of 60 years he raised crop after crop of golden Colorado wheat.

As a teenager I was routinely dispatched from the Denver suburbs to partake in the family farming enterprise, putting in plenty of hot hours alone on a tractor. During harvests, my job was to help haul grain from the combines to the Co-Op’s.

It was fantastic work, as far as I was concerned. No matter how hot it got, no matter how many biting flies swirled around the tractor cab, it was genuine adult responsibility – and great excitement to be out of the suburbs. With the tractor radio stuck on the same station each year, I eventually developed an abiding love of AM country music.

I also developed a sense of awe at the miracles of agriculture, having absorbed many a grandfatherly sermon on the proper way to “raise wheat.”

After sundown, I’d often join my grandfather on evening drives around Holly to inspect “the weather.” He was an expert at gauging the distances of cloudbanks, and at predicting how much rain might be expected in each corner of his land. It was the farmer’s job to adapt his fields as perfectly as possible to what Mother Nature had to offer. A similar job, in many respects, to his former profession of wrestling.

Not long after my grandfather passed away six years ago, at the age of 90, Keith and Renee Denis moved into the house. I was able to chat with Keith and Renee on their front lawn, as a bulldozer was busy knocking down their remaining few walls.

On Wednesday night when they heard an unusual train-like noise in the neighborhood, they thought they might get into their car and drive a ways out of town. On their way to the garage door, windows started to shatter. A second or two later, the roof blew off the house.

Holding onto one another, they felt themselves being lifted upwards, as if gravity had shifted into reverse. Thankfully, around then, the interior wall to the garage came down on top of them, pinning them to the floor, holding them stationary.

Renee attributes the falling wall to having saved their lives. No matter what had happened to their house and all of their bestrewn belongings, they would yet live to talk about their encounter and start the process of rebuilding their lives.

Remaining upbeat, Renee looked forward to a new house, hinting to her husband that “a walk-in closet” might be a nice addition. “And a basement too,” Keith added.

The residents of rural, agricultural Colorado are all-too-familiar with the workings of Mother Nature. Meteorology is the undisputed anchor of the economy, and topic number one in town cafes. Day in and day out the weather is discussed, monitored, scrutinized – and always accepted.

Some crop years are better than others, and sometimes storms grow violent. It’s just the way nature works. You grow and build when you can, you rebuild when you need to.

During his 37 years of living in Holly, my grandfather witnessed many a tornado in the area, but none that had ever made it to town. The luck of the draw, I suppose. Though there was one tragic fatality from Wednesday’s unwelcome visitor, there could easily have been dozens more.

Driving back towards Denver that night, remembering the family camaraderie of yesterday’s wheat harvests, saddened with pictures of the new devastation – the muffled steel guitars on the AM country radio station sounded the way they always had, in the only place where they can sound just that way, out there on Colorado’s flattened southeastern plains.

Not too late, say Easter believers

By John Andrews (andrewsjk@aol.com) Too late? No, it’s still early. The story is far from over. That’s the good news for a weary world, as Jesus’ followers once again commemorate his crucifixion and resurrection at Passover time two millenia ago. Time and again in this greatest of all dramas, the early returns were overturned. Think about it:

On Palm Sunday Christians remembered their Lord’s triumphal entry to Jerusalem where David once reigned. Was this the long-awaited liberator from foreign oppression? That early hope soon faded. By Good Friday, “King of the Jews” was only a mocking insult on the criminal’s cross where Christ died. But the early reactions that night, his disciples’ defeat and his enemies’ elation, were not the last word either. On Easter morning the tomb was empty and the report was: “He is risen.”

Even then the early expectations didn’t hold. Claims that Jesus’ body was stolen, the authorities’ attempt at a coverup, collapsed when he appeared to hundreds of eyewitnesses. On the other hand, his followers’ hunch that the end times were near didn’t prove out either. History went on and still does. Good and evil still battle, hope and hardship still contend.

But all to what purpose? As Holy Week comes round anew with the spring moon, repeating the cycle of 20 long centuries, skeptics feel justified in asking what’s different, what’s better after all these aeons of religion? Believers in turn feel, or ought to feel, the burden of proof in our assertion that the best is yet to come – it’s still early.

We begin the proof by noting that human experience has a story line. History is not, as some wag said, just one darn thing after another. What’s better in our day because Jesus died and rose in Caesar’s day, say Christians, is that forgiveness and love are in the world more fully. New beginnings are in the world; new life for persons who thought they were at a dead end.

Christ’s followers have a woefully uneven record of living out this promise. Yet he keeps fulfilling it himself, in spite of us. And he does so for the most unlikely people. Even as this suffering servant hung on the cross, when everyone watching thought it was too late, he showed it was still early – speaking with authority to redeem a thief, give his grieving mother a new son, and even forgive his murderers.

The unconditional love that Jesus of Nazareth lavishes on everyone, everyone, is the hardest thing about him for me to imitate, I’ll tell you for sure. The political opponents my column sometimes harshly condemns? He’s fine with them. Marxists and Islamofascists? He cherishes each one personally, err as they may. I am shamed by his gentle patience with each atheist, his tender heart toward each illegal alien.

My Lord is so far ahead of me in the forgiveness department that I blush to call myself one of his men; still I stumble on in his footsteps. He was harder on religious hypocrites than government hacks, tougher on temple profiteers than slum-dwelling prostitutes. Who knew? If we who claim to be his church don’t find ourselves startled and chastened by him every single day, we’d best wake up.

A second chance, a fresh start, a clean slate, the last made first, a new ballgame in the ninth, a God who believes in you even if you don’t believe in him – it sounds crazy, but that’s what Easter means. Yes, the Cross is foolishness, said Paul; but it’s also salvation. For all of us fools who thought it was too late, check the calendar. Holy Week this year began with April Fool’s – plenty early for everything a surprising Savior has in store.

Lincoln & me, experiencing DC

By Melanie Harmon (harmon.melanie@gmail.com)

Editor’s Note: Melanie Harmon, a new contributor, submitted this piece Monday on Lincoln’s birthday. I met her as a DU undergrad when she testified in the Senate about radical faculty infringing academic freedom at Metro State, her former school. She later founded DU’s conservative student paper, Common Sense, and worked on the Holtzman for Governor campaign, before graduating in spring 2006. Welcome, Melanie – JA

Like most recent college graduates, I busted out of my cap and gown ready to conquer my next life experience: the real world. Four days after graduation, I moved to Washington, D.C. with two suitcases and lofty visions of what my life would be, post-University of Denver.

I chose our nation’s capital because I wanted to continue the conservative activism of my previous four years. I would be serving my country and the state of Colorado while sticking to the principles I knew to be good and right: personal and fiscal responsibility, little government interference, faith in God and faith in the American people.

Five months into my cross-country, real world experience, those lofty visions were promptly pulled back down to earth. The November elections taught me Lesson No. 1 of living in the real world: that life is chock-full of disappointments.

The Republican losses equaled personal disappointment. Many of the friends I had made were quickly gone, for they had lost their jobs due to election events. Lesson No. 2: working in politics is never a secure gig. Duly noted: we work in the conservative movement for the passion and the principle, certainly not for the security and definitely not for the money.

My job hunt in Washington can only be described as one of a conservative vagabond. Like many other young conservatives in Washington, I frequent the free events at The Heritage Foundation and the Cato Institute, just hoping that my name will catch on somewhere. Although I have a wealth of job experience, compared to all those conservatives who just lost their jobs, I simply don’t match up. Post-elections, the conservative work force became a whole lot more competitive.

Despite the tumultuous job market, I managed to land a job at a libertarian-minded firm as a writer. But working there made me realize that my goals could turn out to be impenetrable. The vast difference between libertarians and conservatives is worthy of a separate discussion altogether. But what I learned is valuable Lesson No. 3: there is no job worth having if one must sacrifice one’s principles.

Thus, I left my job at the libertarian “wonk house,” as we say in Washington, but with my conservative beliefs intact and my dignity not sacrificed for anything, not even for a paycheck. My conservatism is as much a part of me as my brain and my heart.

Since arriving in Washington, I have often asked myself harsh questions and wondered if I had made the right choice in taking such a leap of faith on my ideology—and myself.

Which brings me to important Lesson No. 4: keep looking up to those who give you inspiration. I am blessed to have the National Mall just minutes from my front doorstep, and any time I feel like giving up on my lofty visions, I must remind myself of why I am here in the first place.

As President Lincoln sits tall and proud in his chair, looking over the city, those lofty visions all start coming back to me. Lincoln was the first Republican leader and stood up for what he believed to be good and right when it was highly unpopular and dangerous to do so. His sentiment echoes almost 150 years later, back to Republicans who may not be popular, but do what they know to be good and right. Lincoln’s bravery is something every young conservative should aspire to emulate.

As a young conservative in these arduous times of Washington, I am faced with many challenges. But with those challenges comes many lessons of which I am happy to learn. Things will not be getting easier any time soon, but what I do have are my principles to guide me through those times, and the leaders who inspired me to do it in the first place.

Postcard from Turkey

By Krista Kafer (krista555@msn.com) Oppressive heat and lack of sleep soften the edges of consciousness and blur the colors of memory. I have dreamy impressions of the four days I spent in Turkey this month, bordered on either side by the hard lines of travel. Together with four other Americans – one international expert and his wife, a retired educator; an education expert; and a representative from a higher education council – I arrived in Istanbul after four flights and little sleep.

We began our journey with a boat ride on the Bosporus, the river that bisects Istanbul into the Asiatic and European sides. Istanbul is the only city to occupy two continents. Elaborate stone mosques with slender minarets, Victorian-style mansions, palaces, and hip restaurants passed us on the European side. Hills rose on the more distant Asian shore where the golden light of near-sunset burnished the pale facades of apartment buildings with red clay tiled roofs. After the requisite glass of fresh fruit juice, our hosts led us to the buffet on the lower deck where we had our first taste of Turkish food. Our palettes were unprepared for the delights of the cuisine with its fresh vegetables, savory meats, and delicious fish. Turkish food rivals French food, my favorite, in terms of sheer yumminess. Later, we finished the evening at a famous patisserie eating baklava on the roof terrace. Minarets, swathed in pale moonlight, rose above the still busy streets. Above the murmur of conversation, the call to prayer, like a strange song spilled forth.

In wee hours of the morning we boarded another plane taking us to the capital city of Ankara. Ubiquitous construction projects signal rapid urban growth. The city is modern and attractive yet distinctly Turkish. The new apartment buildings are decorated in beautiful tile mosaics. At a highrise office of a prominent businessman, we were treated to a hands-on lesson in ebru – traditional Turkish painting. The artist literally paints on water with horsehair brushes. When satisfied, he lays a sheet of paper upon the water which absorbs the paint. As with other meetings, we left with gifts under our arms. We received so many gifts during our stay I had to borrow another travel bag to bring them home.

Here while entertaining an endless stream of meetings with dignitaries, educators, and business leaders; I received my first impression of Turks. Turks seem both European and Asian. Sophisticated and secular like Westerners, they are also warm and generous like the Arabs to the south.

While the modern state of Turkey dates to 1923, the Turkish people are of much older origins. Migrating from central Asia, Turks gradually conquered Anatolia from the Byzantines who ruled the eastern Roman Empire after the fall of Roman civilization in the west. In 1453, the Turks took Constantinople, breaking through the massive double wall that had long shielded the city. The crumbling ruins, visible throughout the modern city, testify to the strength of the Ottoman army. At their height, Ottoman rule spanned Anatolia, the Middle East, North Africa, and Southeastern and Eastern Europe. Only the combined efforts of the European powers stopped the Turkish military juggernaut at Vienna. The powerful empire lasted until its alliance with Germany in World War I led to its demise. Carved up by the victors, the Turks retained essentially the borders they have today.

Modern Turkey is a democratic republic. Like many states founded in the 20th Century, it suffers from the statist economic policies popular at the time of its inception. The government regulates everything. In the field of education, bureaucrats in Ankara place teachers and write curriculum. Even private K-12 schools, tutoring companies, and universities are regulated.

In this year’s edition of the Index of Economic Freedom produced by the Heritage Foundation and the Wall Street Journal, Turkey ranks 85th in the world in terms of the level of government coercion in the marketplace. Rated on such variables as trade policy, taxation, property rights, wages and prices, regulation, and other factors, the Index rates Turkey among the “mostly unfree countries” of India, China, and others in Africa and central America. The vast authority of the government became clear when I asked the head of a private university what freedom and flexibility the university has compared to public universities. He responded that other than the freedom to raise their own money, they are regulated the same. Basically they receive less money but bear the same burden of regulation – what a deal.

Other problems persist. The Economist reported recently that only 40 percent of Turkish youths have a secondary school diploma. A third of school aged girls are not even in school. Among the Kurdish minority, statistics are more dismal. An adjacent article reported that 47 of the country’s writers face criminal charges for insulting the country and other controversial writing.

In spite of the heavy hand of government, the country seems to be prospering. An exporter of agricultural products, textiles, and minerals, the country is experiencing a growth rate of 8 percent. Turkey is currently seeking admittance into the European Union. It must first satisfy the demands of entry including resolving its ongoing conflict with Greece over the island of Cyprus. If admitted, Turkey will be the first predominantly Muslim country to enter the union.

Although the citizenry is 99 percent Muslim, the government is strictly secular. As in the rest of Europe, the influence of religion is waning. About half of the country is nominally Muslim. We saw women with and without head scarves and nearly all in very chic outfits. A Turkish mall in Istanbul featured hip clothes, modern electronics and of course, giggling teenage girls. The mall could have been anywhere in the world.

To be sure, the countryside is certainly more conservative and distinctively Turkish than the cosmopolitan city of Istanbul. After another hot, near sleepless night, we flew to Izmir, a city on the coast of the Aegean Sea. Dozing in the van on the way to Ephesus, I awoke to a stunning, sun-scorched Mediterranean countryside. Mountains covered in pine trees and orchards of peaches, olives, and figs, blurred past my window. The figs, sampled at a fruit stand, were luscious.

It was 110 degrees in Ephesus. The sun, reflecting off the marble ruins, was blinding even with a hat and sunglasses. We walked in the footsteps of Apostle Paul -- listening to the strange Irish brogue of our Turkish tour guide who had gained his language skills from Irish and Scottish friends. Half blinded by the reflected sunlight, I stood in the great theatre facing rows of stone that could seat an audience of 24,000. It was as if I could hear the roar of the angry crowd roused against the apostle. Incited by the sellers of idols who stood to lose money, the mob shouted “Great is Diana!” condemning Paul as he stood before them. For a second I could hear their voices. I turned to go. A short distance later, I came to gift shops selling Christian souvenirs.

Back in Izmir we enjoyed a quick cup of hot, sweet tea. The café’s awning could not protect us from the swelter. It was 105 degrees at least and humid. After another doze in the van, we arrived at a friend of a friend’s house. The house sits on the edge of a lake ringed by olive trees. On the walkway to the house we passed three terraced gardens full of ripening tomatoes, egg plants, beans, herbs, and strawberries. Behind the house, the family keeps an orchard. The house has about same square footage as a large middle class home in the United States. The walls are painted but there are no pictures, typical for Muslim homes. The living room features a traditional room with sitting pillows and a low table, as well as a modern room with chairs. Our host is a judge and wealthy by Turkish standards.

My colleague Shahnaz and I were seated with the women. All but one wore colorful head scarves and long sleeves. I admired their endurance; it was at least 100 degrees in the house. We sampled the chewy, semi-sweet candy that is known as Turkish Delight. Joining the men on the balcony we ate an exquisite meal overlooking the orchard. As the sun set, the song of cicadas faded to the chirping of crickets. After the meal, the sexes separated again. The women languished on pillows fanning themselves and drinking thick, sweet Turkish coffee in small, china cups. The host’s daughter and her friends translated for the group. The sounds of Turkish and English flowed back and forth flavored with laughter. Everyone was smiling. Deeply relaxed from heat and sleep deprivation, I thought this might be one of the loveliest moments of my life.

Back at our hotel in Izmir, the power went out in the middle of the night leaving our room at 95 degrees, possibility higher. I was beyond sleeping. A final plane ride brought us back to Istanbul for some sightseeing. Hopped up on sweet tea, we wandered from the Sultan’s palace to Hagia Sophia, the Byzantine cathedral turned mosque turned museum, to the Blue Mosque, a sublimely beautiful building with thousands of blue ceramic tiles. The visit to Hagia Sophia left me with a lingering sadness. It was once the marvel of the Byzantine capital. Its high gold dome floats above rows of grand interior arches and windows. Despite its structural grandeur, its paint is flaking. While some of the original Christian mosaics remain, Islamic calligraphy covers part of the interior walls. One can see where the cross was removed from the great church door. Like a smoldering ember left after a great fire has been quenched, the church is but a shadow of its former self.

We boarded the van again to head to the suburbs of Istanbul to a businessman’s summer home. Along with gardens and orchards, he keeps peacocks, turkeys, hens, pigeons, Anatolian shepherds, and a horse. As in Izmir, the family is joined by friends for the evening. We devour the most delicious grilled meats, stuffed peppers, and chopped cucumber, onion, and tomato salad, flat bread, and other sumptuous bites. It seemed impossible to eat more until the bowls of fresh fruit were set before us – perfect apricots, a kind of dried fruit roll-up, dried white mulberries, nuts, and of course delicious coffee. The conversation ebbed and flowed in Turkish and English. These men and women, like everyone we had met, are deeply concerned about the future of their country. Their philanthropic giving supports schools, colleges, and hospitals around the country. When the government flounders, their institutions are laying the ground for future prosperity. We are honored to know them.

On our final day, we have two more meetings plus a few hours of shopping. Our bags grow heavy with hand painted pottery and exotic textiles. After a final dinner at a local university, we held back to the hotel. Enjoying the balmy evening by the pool, our small group chatted about the whirlwind trip. Since we had to be at the airport at 3 am we decided to stay up rather than sleep. Somehow it seemed a fitting end to four and a half days in Turkey.